Friday, August 20, 2010

motivation or lack thereof...

I have SO MANY THINGS I want to get done before I officially go back to work on Tuesday! I have all of those unfinished projects I mentioned on day 1 of this blog. I know I need to do more digital scrapbooking because I won't have the time when I start working. I want to START the hairbow project that I bought the supplies for over a month ago. I want to organize my clothes. I want to go through Ashlyn's clothes... AGAIN... I have a list of ideas I want to blog on here... There are SO MANY THINGS... There are also things I NEED to do... I need to clean the house... I need to put Ashlyn's laundry away that has been sitting on the chair for a week... I need to get an Emissions test on the car since the state of Illinois thinks this is super important and required to renew our tags. I need to change my licensure from one county to another... etc etc etc... None of this sounds fun at ALL!!! Most of all I NEED to get my priorities in line before this new school year starts. I have no motivation to do ANY of these things! Not even the ones I do for enjoyment. I think I am a little overwhelmed with all that I want to do and the lack of time left to do it.
I have such an amazing little family! My husband does so much for us. So many little things... Have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages? If not you should go here immediately! ... If it wasnt for this book I would not be married. Erik and I wouldn't have made it past year 2 or 3. I was so fed up with him... I kept asking why don't you love me? Why don't you tell me you love me? Why don't you tell me why you love me??? He was going insane with these questions! Can't you see I love you! Look at all I do for you? I just took your car to be detailed... I cleaned the house while you were at work... Clearly we have two very different love languages. After reading this book everything got easier... I began to realize that when he scrubbed the shower he was performing an Act of Service to show how much he loves me... I would try to do little acts of service myself to show him how much I appreciated him and only told him how much I loved him 99 times instead of 101 every day. He began telling me "I love you because you make me pancakes in the morning." (That is a direct quote)... And our relationship blossomed!
Of course life takes over though... It's been a while since I've done an Act of Service just to show my amazing husband how much I love him.... So instead of digital scrapbooking, bow making, closet organizing... I will be clearing the dining room table that is covered in all of the above mentioned materials and more... I will be putting away Ashlyns laundry... I will be cleaning my school stuff out of the garage. So I will use Erik's love language to motivate me today because there is nothing I love more in this world than my family.

The good thing is that I know my husband has only read the blog once or at least not recently so if I don't get these things done today at least he won't come home disappointed!!!


  1. I am right there with you!! I had list after list of things I was going to do before the kids went back to school. Then, it became lists for when they were at school. 2 weeks later I still have most of it to do!!

    I love the Love Languages Book. Me and Josh are the opposite of you and Erik. Mine is acts of service and Josh's is words of affirmation and physical affection. This post is very timely for me. Yesterday Kate went to Mom's Morning Out for 3 hours and it's the only time during the week I am completely child free. I had SOOO much to do, but Josh was able to be at home yesterday so we just sat on the couch and cuddled and watched House. I kept thinking I wanted the house clean for his birthday today, but I finally realized he could care less about the house and would rather have time with me! (Thank goodness, cuz our house is still a wreck!!)

  2. i also love the love languages book! should be given as a gift for all newly married couples. so important to know this early on in the marriage!

  3. What a sweet wifey! ;) I love that book, too!

  4. Emily- Thats so funny that we are opposites! Awesome that you realized that you could just kick back and relax with him! Wish Erik wasn't an Acts of Service sometime... Darn it!
    Philip- Isn't it though?
    Pao-Ying- I used to give it as a wedding gift... I probably should start doing that again!
    Rosemary- LOL I didn't get as much done as I wanted but he did notice!